Whether it is poor grades or staying out past the curfew, all conflicts can be resolved. Follow these ways to resolve conflicts with children
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Ways to resolve conflicts with your children
Sometimes you end up locking horns with your children, especially teenagers, and it frustrates you that they do not see you mean well for them. While it frustrates you, you have to let go of your anger, unclench your jaw, take a deep breath and try to understand their point...or at least let go of the fight. You should learn conflict resolution strategies to handle these problems Here are a few ways in which you can resolve conflicts with your children.
Take a deep breath
This is the first step and a very important one. Take a deep breath and pause for a minute. Handling conflict is not an easy task. Think of it as even worth causing so much havoc in the house. Sometimes, while yelling and debating, we forget what the main problem was and end up accusing or taking out frustration about other irrelevant things. So, save yourself some energy and let it go. In this way, you can resolve conflicts very quickly.
‘We’ instead of ‘you’
Do not make your arguments personal. Remember, whether it is children, your partner or even your friends, never engage in personal attacks. With your children, always remember to make it sound like a team. Do not tell them that it is their problem and they need to solve it, but make efforts to solve it with them.
Give them some space
If you see them getting agitated or giving you the silent treatment, then give them some space. Do not ignore them, but just let them be on their own for a while. Remember that your child is also hurt and may have pent-up feelings about various other things. Try to understand their point of view and if you cannot agree with them, let them process the whole episode. It might lead to them realising their mistake too.
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Forgive and forget
I will not tell you “be the bigger person” because it is not even about that when it is your own child. Remember that at the end of the day, they are your children who are yet to learn a lot about life, and therefore instead of hanging on to the petty issues and statements, just forgive and forget the whole incident. In life, holding on to anger will only harm you more. This way, your kids will also learn the value of forgiveness.